Tuesday 16 August 2016

1st Month as Au Pair. Working and Free Time.

My relation with the eldest sister is going worse and worse. This all make me sad. She is polemic about all my decision and time to time answers in such an aggressive way.
Last Friday her mum argued with me since I use all the time kids were watching TV for using IPAD and having chats and conversations with foreigners. I underlined the bad behaviour of her daughter and how I felt upset when her daughters and son eat in the living room and leave me alone as a slave in the kitchen. I do not know even if we exchange more than 20 words per day. When I try to begin a conversation, they just give me a short answer as they do not have any pleasure in talking with me.
Saturday and Sunday were a complete disaster. Both me and the mother were angry and I REALLY considered to go somewhere else.
I took a break and I enjoyed Kinsale with another Italian au pair. I do really wanted to rest and being far from this awful situation.
At the moment I have only one offer 1 hour from the main city, but I considered the following points:
-I will be far from the airport and city centre(in case I will want to attend some classes of Business or English).
-Nobody can assure me that this family will have less problems than my previous one, since each family has a different problem.
In this period I excluded all offers of job as not au pair because here rent is very high and I must be sure to afford it.
Yesterday I did not have so many difficulties. We were 4 hours at the park and anyway the daughter complained about the short time.
Anyway, I tried to avoid technology and use the working time for reading. Yesterday was a sunny day, such a blessing of the Lord if you consider that ai live in Ireland. You can bet that I have read more than 50 pages. It was a novel that I am not reading for university, so I took pleasure and I did not pay too much attention to details of the plot. In the evening I studied for English certification.
Since I am here I have read 1 book per week. It is a good beginning.
Despite all my complainings and difficulties, I can say that this month abroad has taught me a lot. I am dealing with my emotions and patience. When I feel really nervous I just go to the kitchen and I cook sweets. Better than shouting or swearing.

Wednesday 3 August 2016

First weeks

My first 2 weeks were difficult due to my new entrance in the family.
I did not know rules and this did not help because most of the time the mum was incoherent in her behaviour, but wanted that children behave according to normal rules as not eating in front of TV. I was strict and "mean". The oldest daughter hated me and this was heartbreaking.
Today I wrote her a letter of peace. I just hope that things will improve otherwise it will be very hard.
In these days I got in contact with many au pairs thanks to fb. It was really good to have their feedback and suggestions. We visited together the Blarney castle and Cork:-)

Saturday 23 July 2016

Today was my 2nd day here in Ireland. Kids are so wonderful, curious and imaginative.
W, the younger is saying to me "ehi" when she does not want I do something and she calls me "ayua". I love her!
  We play all day and I feel very tired in the evening. Children like running but they can easily get bored so every time they are asking what activity to do.
In summer days children have so much free time but they should find an activity.
Today I and R painted and created the door entrance for the girl's club situated in the garden. It was a simple material and the result was not extraordinary, but we enjoyed that time. She appreciated our work and result and her brother was playing too since he pretended to be the fish seller. It was so good. I have learnt that children do not need too many things: their fantasy will take them everywhere.

Thursday 7 July 2016

Dealing with Lugguage...

Dear all,
I am sorry, I did not write for long time but I was dealing with exam.
Sunday I spoke with my host family. I asked them what they would like to receive as presents and the girl asked a dog ;-) while the boy a multi-controlled car.
I have not bought them yet since I will go there in 2 weeks. I just start to be worried about the quantity of objects that I need to prepare for my year abroad since my family is going to come there in December, so I will need to think also about autumn and winter stuff :-(
As student of translation I will need 2 vocabularies, an Ipad and many books...and I must not have more than 21 kg!
If you are master of preparing lugguage or you have any suggestion, please let me know ASAP :-)
Love,
Busyasabee



Wednesday 22 June 2016

Competitive Atmosphere

Dear all,
today I am a bit upset. In the last period things are not going as I expect and one of my friend is always underlying my poor results.
I'm a religious woman and I belive in the power of Faith and so I pray a lot. However, it is so annoying when someone keep this competitive atmosphere. Each single person is different and react in a different way. I know that a challenging time can be also a way to grow up and learn something new. Her speechs hurt me. She undervalue my experience as au pair. It is not a gap year, it is a year of hard studying and working with children.
I study every single day. I know that there are people much more better than me, but there are also people with poorer results than mine.
I'd prefer to have a cooperative atmosphere than a competitive one.
Is it so necessary to be so competitive?

Competitive Atmosphere

Dear all,
today I am a bit upset. In the last period things are not going as I expect and one of my friend is always underlying my poor results.
I'm a religious woman and I belive in the power of Faith and so I pray a lot. However, it is so annoying when someone keep this competitive atmosphere. Each single person is different and react in a different way. I know that a challenging time can be also a way to grow up and learn something new. Her speechs hurt me. She undervalue my experience as au pair. It is not a gap year, it is a year of hard studying and working with children.
I study every single day. I know that there are people much more better than me, but there are also people with poorer results than mine.
I'd prefer to have a cooperative atmosphere than a competitive one.
Is it so necessary to be so competitive?